I mentioned recently that at our house, we all sleep in the family bed. Well, not all as the puppy is still being crate trained. It isn’t easy to add a new dynamic into your sleep routine, but I’m actually very happy with our results.
When I was young, I developed insomnia. I was in elementary school, so it is not like my life was so stressful. Sleep seemed like my enemy; I had to beat it into submission. Or, at least I tried. Every night, after staring at the ceiling for what seemed like forever, I would get out of bed and complain I was tired. My father thought I was trying to get away with something; to be fair, I was so nervous when I left my bedroom that I was always smiling. I was sending mixed signals and my father wasn’t invested enough to try and help me.
Basically, I look at what my parents did, and then I do the complete opposite. He is often an equal partner in our lives.
From October 2016 to June 2017, Caleb would wake up in the night and craw into bed with us. Then when my husband’s family took us on a trip to Chicago, Caleb slept with us. After that, he was hooked. And now, so am I.
Caleb also has trouble sleeping, so we have a bedtime routine at 8:00pm. It is common for autistic people to have sleep issues, and I completely understand how frustrating it can be.
After Caleb is cleaned up and into pajamas, we turn off all the lights, put away electronics and watch Gilmore Girls while all 3 of us are cuddling (4 if you include our dog, Eli). There is n pressure on him, so we are able to remove the anxiety about falling asleep.
I would recommend a family bed for anyone with a child on the spectrum or just has sleep issues. It is so important to Caleb; he can’t handle even the threat of sleeping in his own bed. And the sweet sweet cuddles are all worth the kicks to the face you will happily endure.